Life, it can beat you down…Finding inner peace can become a challenge in today’s society, draining away our positive energy. Life can be busy and take it’s toll…You may have lost sight of the ‘inner you’ that has made you special and unique.
I know for me that there is always something going on that brings about stress. It can drain us of our positive energy.
Sometimes outer influences can also have an influence on you as a person and can change who you are inside. At least for me that has been the case.
Trying to balance work and home life can sometimes be difficult and demanding.
You have to shop, do laundry, pay the bills, cook, clean, etc…
I think people overwhelm themselves with just trying to do too much, especially now with the electronic age that simply sucks up our time.
Make it simpler! Let it go!
I know, I know…It’s easier said then done.
So I want to share with you some methods that I came across while doing research that may help you find some inner peace, and may help you bring back the person inside of you that you ‘lost’.
How To Find Inner Peace in 11 Ways
1. Accept What Is
A lot of people focus and dwell on things that they absolutely have no control over. Why do we do that? We need to stop worrying about the things that we can’t change and focus on the things that we can change.
When you begin accepting the ‘what is’ that you cannot change, you automatically relieve a great deal of stress and anxiety. Imagine a huge weight being lifted off of your shoulders. You stop feeding energy into resisting ‘what is’. It becomes ‘it just is’.
Amazingly you feel a sense of stillness inside. But accepting ‘what is’ doesn’t mean you should give up. It means that now you can focus your energy and attention on taking action if necessary, to change whatever situation you are in.
“Change the changeable, accept the unchangeable, and remove yourself from the unacceptable”.
Forgiveness is a big part of finding inner peace. To me, and this is my opinion, before you can move on, you must forgive!
That means forgiving others and you must forgive yourself. When you accept ‘what is’, it’s much easier to let go of things and to find forgiveness.
Think about it this way: If you don’t forgive someone you are forever linked to that person. You will think about the person who did you wrong and what they did to you over and over again. This emotional link is so strong and causes you to suffer, bringing about inner turmoil, not only in you, but in those around you.
I know I do this, and I had to learn to forgive, because it hurt! When you do forgive, you not only release the other person, you set yourself free from all of the pain and agony.
And it’s not about just forgiving others, you must forgive yourself. When you are able to forgive yourself – instead of resenting yourself for something you did in the past – you make the habit of forgiveness a natural part of you, making it easier to forgive others.
“Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself”.
If you have a lot on your mind and your thoughts are driving you crazy, meditation can help you find inner peace.
The purpose of meditation is to make our mind calm and peaceful. If our mind is peaceful, we will be free from worries and mental discomfort, and so we will experience true happiness; but if our mind is not peaceful, we will find it very difficult to be happy, even if we are living in the very best conditions. If we train in meditation, our mind will gradually become more and more peaceful, and we will experience a purer and purer form of happiness. Eventually, we will be able to stay happy all the time, even in the most difficult circumstances. Source: http://www.how-to-meditate.org/why-learn-to-meditate.htm/
“Quiet the mind and the soul will speak”.
~Ma Jaya Sati Bhagavati
4. Do What You Enjoy
Doing what you enjoy brings about a natural peace from within, you become aligned with your outer world. If you really don’t like what you do, how can you be successful, or passionate about it?
So start exploring, experimenting, trying new things. Let go of that ‘FEAR’! I know that most of my life I was never happy working in a ‘job’. I knew there was something better out there for me personally, and I never gave up on finding that dream.
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do, so throw off the bowlines, sail away from safe harbor, catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore, Dream, Discover.”
5. Get Back To Nature
We spend so much time inside anymore, busy, we forget where we came from. It is a natural thing for us to be out in nature, and that is why it feels really good and peaceful when we walk in a park, hike on a trail, or go biking.
I know for me I get so caught up anymore it’s hard to breakaway from the drudgery, but when I do, I feel renewed. I forget how fun it is to take our dog to the park and just let her run, or go to the playground and run around with the kids. I love going on picnics and hiking the trails in the woods.
“The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience”.
6. Smile About It
Doesn’t it feel good when you are laughing or smiling? Not only does something happen on a chemical level to make you feel better, but it also stops all negativity from entering your psyche (soul, mind and spirit).
7. Care About Others
If you are self-consumed and just worry about your own needs and wants (selfish!), you will never find inner peace. When you genuinely care about other people, want to give more than you receive, a lot of good comes out of it. It doesn’t matter if it’s someone you are close to or a stranger, any act of kindness leads the way to inner peace.
I seem to always have people approaching me for some change, or a dollar. I give it to them. I give to the person sitting outside the supermarket asking for money. Other people just walk on by like they never even saw them. I don’t know their story, I don’t know if they are bullshitting me or not – I give it to them because they may really need it, and it does make me feel good!
“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted”.
8. Always Keep Hope
When you have hope, you always can find your inner peace. Whenever we get stressed out and overwhelmed in our own lives, we tend to lose that hope.
Just remember that everything will be OK. When you have hope, no matter how terrible something may seem at the time, it’s just temporary, and things will work out.
I also learned to take whatever it is that I may be stressed or worried about, to put it in Gods hands. I give it to him! When I do that it takes the worry out of me, and you know what? Things usually do work out better when I do this than if I hold all of this inside of myself.
“Hope is like the sun, which, as we journey toward it, casts the shadow of our burden behind us”.
9. Embrace Your Beliefs
Whatever your belief is, whatever you believe in, embrace it completely. Be devoted to your faith completely and peace will enter into your heart. Even though we may disagree on each others beliefs, we must all agree that a solid, healthy faith is a crucial foundation to guide us towards peace and wisdom.
Research has shown that people who are deeply devoted to their faith have a higher life expectancy and are less likely to develop diseases such as cancer. This is due to the fact that they experience more inner peace, which is an important factor to increasing the quality pf your life.
“We can never sustain peace in the outer world unless we make peace with ourselves”.
~Tanzin Qyotso, the 14th Dalai Lama
10. Keep On Learning
Life is ever changing and growing and moving forward. It can become stressful when you worry about not having all of the answers. I know for me sometimes life is moving so fast that I feel like I can’t keep up.
Just being open to learning new things in a big step toward finding inner peace. Constantly learning keeps our minds sharp and keeps you growing as a person.
Accept that life is a big journey of never-ending learning and you will find yourself closer to experiencing true inner peace within yourself.
“Live as if you were to die tomorrow,
Learn as if you were to live forever”.
11. Live In The Present
Think for a moment what you worry about. It’s usually about something in the past, or something that hasn’t happened yet, isn’t it? Why worry about something from that past that we cannot change, or something that we do not know will ever happen?
Living in the present moment, this moment, erases these thoughts, helping you find inner peace. In this present moment, you have no worries or problems. There is only stillness, and within that stillness you can uncover peace.
I know for me I would worry so bad when I was in a stressful situation about what was going to happen, that I would make myself sick. That’s when I learned to just put it in God’s hands. When I did that things did work out, and I was also relieved of all that stress.
12. Let The Phone Ring!
For me personally, there is no bigger distraction or an added stress than being interrupted by a ringing phone. If I am in the middle of something important or something that I want to get done I absolutely hate a ringing phone. I always keep my answering machine on because a good bit of the time it is usually a caller soliciting or an appointment reminder. If I need to call them back I will, or if it is am important call I will pick it up. It’s hard to even sit down, relax, and watch a movie without being interrupted.
For me, I greatly cherish my ‘quiet time’. Having that time alone without all of the distractions and ‘life’ pulling at me from different directions brings me a rejuvenated sense of inner peace.
“Work is hard. Distractions are plentiful. And time is short”.
Finding Inner Peace Through Writing
I know something that helps me find a sense of inner peace, and that is through writing. That’s why I enjoy having a blog where I can express myself. It seems that when I can put my thoughts down in writing, it helps release some of that inner turmoil that I have going on inside of me.
Below is a story that I wrote about me, and how I let outer influences change me inside, and a realization that I came to.
The Outer World Can Change The Inner You
Don’t take my kindness for weakness…
I’ve survived hunger and poverty. I don’t have the things other people have…Or maybe what I do have are the important things.
Don’t take my quietness for stupidity…
Have you ever noticed that those who say the most say the least…Those who say the most can be good people, but what they say is MORE about “me, myself, and I”… Can this change the inner you?
Don’t take my shyness for unfeeling…
I have deep feelings, feelings that get hurt easily. How deep are you’re feelings, you–the one who is quick to criticize someone different than you. Or are you so wrapped up being the life of the party you fail to notice the pain you can cause?…Maybe it doesn’t bother you. Maybe you don’t want to change the inner you.
I’m not going to name names. I’m not going to call you out and expose you for who you really are. I’m not going to shine a spotlight on you like you shined that spotlight on me, an unsuspecting deer in the woods.
That beautiful deer in the woods, so mild and and undeserving of the harsh realities of the real world. The one untouched.
I’m going to release these pent up thoughts that have been caged up like a bird. I’m going to set them free and release them to the sky and let then fly away with the wind.
Up, up and away you go.
I would never intentionally hurt anyone. Why is it in some people? Maybe they have been hurt in their past and they want to lash out and hurt other people. Maybe unknowingly they do it. Maybe they don’t realize the consequences of their actions.
I used to be like a flower that hasn’t opened up. Unknowing to the world, sweet and someone who wouldn’t say anything harsh to anyone.
Like a caterpillar in a cocoon. In my own cocoon, waiting to metamorphose into a beautiful butterfly, unknown to the harsh realities of the real world.
It can make you defensive, make you change into something you aren’t. Make you want to either hide away in your own little world, or give you fear of just being yourself.
BUT NO MORE!
I realize that I have a wonderful family that I love more than anything, and who loves me more than anything. They love me for me and I love them for them. That is the best gift in the world. I would rather spend time with them than all of the people out there in the world. They are what makes me happy. They are what I live for!
Story by Donna Astarita
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